lesson learnt,now all i need to do is practice it.

The Fourth Precept
'giving up false speech he becomes a speaker of truth, reliable, trustworthy, dependable, he does not deceive the world.
Giving up malicious speech he does not repeat there what he has heard here nor does he repeat here what he has heard there in order to cause variance between people.
He reconciles those who are divided and brings closer together those who are already friends.
Harmony is his joy, harmony is his delight, harmony is his love; it is the motive of his speech.
Giving up harsh speech his speech is blameless, pleasing to hear, agreeable, going to the heart, urbane, liked by most.
Giving up idle chatter he speaks at the right time, what is correct, to the point, about Dhamma and about discipline.
He speaks words worth being treasured up, seasonable, reasonable, well defined and to the point.'
-Buddha.