the thing about friendship.

when they wanted honesty from us,
how honest should we be?
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a question i always ask myself.
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you know what people say,
about how friends can tell each other everything.
be each other's wing-person,
support centre.
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think about this,
what if,
you see your friend doing something wrongly.
in any way.
how (s)he dress,
behave,
do.
what would you do?
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the logical answer is to try to correct them.
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'try'.
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i've had times when i get really honest with my friends.
and i realised that,
honesty really doesn't 'strengthen' friendships,as what we've all heard.
instead we drift apart.
we hang out a lot lesser.
talk a lot lesser.
until finally we find nothing in common with each other anymore.
so we don't have a reason to catch up with each other anymore.
the comfort zone that we've created between us,disappeared.
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i find that sometimes,
what we all need from our friends is a little pinch of tolerance,
and acceptance.
for who we are.
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blame me for having opinions,
but if there's anyone who should point out your flaws to you,
it should be your friends,no?
if it's not your parents,'cause they love you too much and had spent the most time with you,
that they can't see anything wrong in their precious creation anymore.
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sure, it hurts.
truth hurts.
but aren't we suppose to learn to be stronger by taking in the pain and grow out of it??
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if your friends can't even be completely comfortable with you,
how can you expect strangers to accept you for the way you are when you enter the society?
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all our life,
we seek the hands that embrace us,
and avoid the mouths that speak ill words about us.
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we wrapped ourselves in this warm little cocoon,and refused to break out and fly.
with that, we stayed stationary.
in the state of ignorance.
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we failed to ask ourselves,
WHY do people talk bad about us.
WHY aren't people comfortable spending time with us.
WHY can't everyone accept us the way we are.
we failed to summon enough courage from our mind to do so.
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so instead,
we gave up trying to change for the better,
but continues to run away from truth,
and stay in our comfort zone.
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the real reason i'm bringing this topic up,
isn't because i want to complain about anyone in any way.
but to question our intentions when we say 'oh (s)he's my friends,we're close.'
to know what is the secret to having friendship that actually lasts,
and not just disappear and everyone pretends that the bond never existed,
then acts as if you missed each other like long lost lovers when you meet 10years later.
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how honest should we really be with our friends?
should we keep quiet even if there's something they did that makes us uncomfortable?
everything has a boundary,you may say.
then please, enlighten me on what exactly are the things that are considered as 'over the limit',
so i can shut up when i'm supposed to.